- 2 months ago
I would keep communicating to your partner and help point him toward resources so that you two can read about these things and "learn together".
When it comes to questions like, "Why would you want to act like a baby?" then the answer is very simple and should be basic, not something you need to get deeply into because it isn't a deep question.
"It's how I really, truly feel on the inside. It's a form of self-expression for me to be able to do things that reflect how I feel on the inside."
You cannot force someone to be a Daddy or any role within the community if that's not them but it's possible that they can discover this about themselves through reading reliable resources. Sometimes it just takes a person to read about what a Daddy does or the personality type for them to have the light bulb go off for them and they say, "Wait...I do that..." or, "But...wow, that sounds actually exactly how I feel!" Sometimes the label itself is what feels extreme.
So, speaking of labeling, maybe the word "Daddy" is also something that is tripping him up on fully being able to embrace these things. Some couples decide that "Daddy" isn't the right word they want to use so they switch to some other language or name they decide together feels more comfortable. It's something you can eventually talk about.
Lastly, I just want to say that you do not NEED to have a Caregiver or a Daddy to have fulfilling experiences as a little. You do not NEED to have someone around to be able to really, truly feel fully little and regressed. Realistically, a parent is not as interactive toward a child when the child is, well, being a child and becoming engrossed in activities like playing pretend, watching cartoons, or coloring. A lot of parenting is very much passive, including a lot of passive participation where the parent is simply physically present but not actually interacting. What I'm trying to say is...whatever you think you're missing out on? You're probably not, and getting caught up in the idea that you need more, you need someone to do this and that, is not only going to tear your relationship apart but, ultimately, cause you a lot of depression and issues with future relationships as you grow.